When your dream life isn’t your dream anymore

Have you ever dream of achieving a certain position? And then you work so hard, sacrificing your time, money, family and when you do get there, you found out something. You hate it. You hate everything about your new job. And after everything that you went through, all you wanted to do was to get out of it.

Sounds familiar?

Don’t worry. Many of us have been here. In fact, this is a very common situation.

I remember when I was in school, I really wanted to be a journalist or work in the advertising industry. So I went to uni to study Mass Communication. I worked my way up. I achieved my dream job. I was already in the advertising industry. And guess what? I hated it. I hated every minute of it. I hated the pitching session. I hated brainstorming session. And I hated the reporting. Everything was just meaningless for me. How could that be? I was living my dream right? I mean this was what I wanted. Many people would do anything to make their dream come true. Here I am, complaining and dreading my working days.

So, why does that happen to us?

The answer is pretty much simple. We live in a community. Our decisions are usually based by our surroundings. Social media, TV, Radio, Advertisements, Culture, Family, Government & Education. Sometimes they blur out the reality in us. For example, in my case, when I was growing up, I would watch MTV & HBO every single day. I loved reality TV Show. And at that point, it was just super cool to be part of the advertising/media industry. I took note of how glamorous & fun their lives were. All I wanted to be part of them. But truth be told, I was just influenced by the media. There was another talent & passion in me that I kept buried just to keep up with my fake dream.

How can we solve this?

We all make mistakes. Mistakes are what made us, us. And its not so much about the destination, but more about the journey. Its about the experience that develops your character. If you have been through what I went through, think about what you’ve learnt along the way. The knowledge that you’ve gained has its own benefits to your daily life., whether you can see it or not. Reflect and observe for yourself. Maybe it was your patience, or your time, or your leadership. Even if you feel like you have wasted so many years of your life learning something useless, its ok. If you want to get out of it, just go. You know, maybe it’s time for you to move to another adventure. Sometimes it takes one wrong dream to realize your actual true purpose in life. The experience you had with your previously hated job will brace you for your next job or phase in life.

 

Much love,

Nana Zul

 

 

 

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